4 Things I’ve Learned About Marriage

Hey, strangers! It’s been so long since I’ve had time, or the mental capacity, to write a post. I started school a couple weeks ago and it’s been a whirlwind. I’m getting into the swing of things now, which feels nice. I’m SO happy at my new school! I was definitely nervous to get started in 8th grade ELA, since my background is in elementary. However, I’ve been pleasantly surprised by how natural it is for me. I love my team, I love my teaching partner, I love getting to know my students, and I love teaching reading and writing workshop for all 4 classes.

Let’s see, what else is new? I’m still teaching bootcamp and I LOVE it! It is literally the perfect combination of my passion for teaching and my passion for fitness. I get to workout with the coolest people ever. Literally, everyone is awesome! This picture was from the very first day of school. I rushed to the gym to teach right after school. We have this new mic we speak into, which is awesome, but every once in a while I get caught up in the music and start singing into it (it’s impossible NOT to sing Boombastic).

I’ve been working out at the gym 3-4 times per week and doing low intensity steady state cardio for the other days 2-3 days. It’s working for me! Running has taken a back seat lately. It doesn’t feel good and now that I’m 30, I don’t do things that don’t feel good! My 30 year old resolution is to only do things that make me feel good!

ALSO, Kevin and I are going to Chicago next weekend and I’m so excited! I’ve been wanting to go for ages now. It’s the perfect Labor Day getaway. We’re going to see a Cubs game, eat lots of pizza, and explore the city. It’ll be our first road trip in a while (we’re driving because it’s only 8 hours away). I like road trips with Kevin! We’re good travel buddies, which is good, because we’re married.

Speaking of Kevin, and marriage…Facebook reminded me that Kevin proposed to me around this time 4 years ago. He snuck into my classroom (my first classroom!) and asked me to marry him.

Side note: This was shortly after he told me he was going to by a motorcycle, so I thought an engagement was not in the near future.

Since this happened 4 years ago, I thought I’d list 4 things I’ve learned over these years as far as marriages go! I’m not an expert and these by no means are brand spankin’ new, breaking news tips and tricks. They’re areas that I’ve grown in personally and think are important!

  1. Focus on the good: Personally, I think women in particular struggle with this concept. It’s so easy to get caught up in things that annoy you or bother you about the other person’s habits or whatever. It’s hard to blend lives when you’re one way and your partner is the other. But I’ve learned to try to focus on all the wonderful things Kevin does like love me for me, mow the lawn like a boss, and save the last bite for me every.single.time.
  2. Pick your battles: Speaking of focusing less on the bad, seriously pick your battles. It sounds so cliche but there are some things that are just not worth bringing up. Regarding the things that are worth bringing up, try to do it a nice, simple manner, Not over, and over, and over. I’m still working on this…
  3. Do fun stuff: Don’t stop dating and doing fun things once you’re married. The fun activities and outings are what keep couples happy and thriving. Dinner dates, movie nights, road trips, concerts- do it all! Celebrate birthdays and anniversaries and all of that good stuff. Life’s too short to “save your money” and grade papers on the weekend. <—- again, always working on this.
  4. Be grateful: Marriage is hard. Just because you’re married doesn’t mean the trials and tribulations of dating just go away. But, don’t take your partner for granted. Be grateful for the fact that there are still things to learn about one other, and that the curve balls life throw at you often bring you closer. Be grateful that you have the other person there to support you, challenge you, and care for you. Try to aways appreciate and respect one another, regardless of whether you’re on an up or a down slope in life. Sometimes this is easier said than done, but it’s something to keep in mind.

Have a happy Sunday, and a wonderful week!


Recipes I’m making this week:

Parmesan-Lemon Chicken Bake This is SO easy and really flavorful.

Brownie Batter Smoothie I leave out the date and add 2 scoops of collagen instead of 1.

Flaxseed Crusted Chicken and SP Noodles

Paleo Coconut Flour Zuchinni Bread

The Easiest Shredded Chicken Making tacos on Tuesday- duh!


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